The Healing Journey of Nic and David Sheff

In his book Beautiful Boy: A Father’s Journey Through His Son’s Addiction, David Sheff described his challenging and heroic journey with his son Nic. Together, Nic and David Sheff navigated the path of healing from substance abuse disorder. Their story is also told in the 2018 film Beautiful Boy, starring Steve Carrell, which is based on David’s book.

In addition, Nic Sheff wrote the book Tweak: Growing Up on Methamphetamines, a New York Times best-selling memoir about the journey from his perspective. The book is written in the style of a journal, and speaks honestly about his crystal meth abuse. Moreover, Nic details his struggle for survival as a teen and in his 20s.

“David and Nic wrote from their personal experiences of living through recovery and relapses, but also the moments of life’s joy, innocence, and love. They start out thinking that they have the tools to deal with Nic’s addiction, to ‘solve’ it. They don’t, but they learn a lot along the way. As time passes, there are moments where control seems beyond their reach and they experience how the consequences of addiction affect every fiber of their lives.”

—Felix van Groeningen, director of the film based on David Sheff’s book

Newport Academy Substance abuse Resources: Nic and David Sheff

Newport Academy Event Honors Nic and David Sheff

Newport Academy is thrilled to bring renowned author and speaker David Sheff to our California community on Wednesday, January 16, from 7:00­–­9:00 pm. The event takes place at Newport Academy’s Intensive Outpatient and Therapeutic Day School Location in Costa Mesa.

David will reflect on his experience, strength, and hope as a parent of a struggling teen. In addition, the evening includes appetizers, drinks, and time for connection, at no cost.

A limited number of books by the author will be available to purchase on-site. Moreover, attendees may bring a personal copy of any David Sheff books to be signed.

Find out more and RSVP by January 12.

There Are Many Families Like That of Nic and David Sheff

The Beautiful Boy have struck a chord with readers and viewers. That’s because the book and movie tell a story that many people can relate to.

As David Sheff writes in the book, “It’s an incontrovertible fact that many—more than half of all children—will try [drugs]. For some of those, drugs will have no major negative impact on their lives. For others, however, the outcome will be catastrophic.”

In fact, a study by the National Household Survey on Drug Abuse concludes that adolescents are at the greatest risk of starting illegal drug use. Furthermore, kids are displaying signs of drug use at younger ages. The study reveals that young people are falling into abusive drug patterns as early as the sixth, seventh, and eighth grades (12 to14 years old).

“Why does it help to read others’ stories? People are relieved to learn that they are not alone in their suffering, that they are part of something larger, in this case, a societal plague [drugs]—an epidemic of children, an epidemic of families.” 

—David Sheff 

Newport Academy Substance abuse Resources: Nic and David Sheff

Signs of Teen Drug Use

As David points out in Beautiful Boy, it’s often difficult to recognize when a teen is using drugs. However, there are certain signs to look for.

Signs of teenage drug use include the following changes in behaviors and mannerisms.

  • Abandonment of old friends and hobbies
  • A new social circle
  • Heightened secrecy and even outright lying
  • A sudden decline in academic performance
  • Increased truancy and missing appointments
  • A new, more intense resistance to feedback
  • Paranoia, irritability, bouts of anger, volatility
  • Significant weight loss or gain without reason
  • Carelessness with grooming and appearance
  • Skipping family dinners and family outings

Newport Academy Substance abuse Resources: Nic and David Sheff

The Dangers of Methamphetamine Abuse

For Nic and David Sheff, the struggle for survival was against methamphetamine addiction. Methamphetamine addiction refers to the abuse of the highly addictive stimulant drug methamphetamine, commonly known as meth.

A manmade drug, methamphetamine is typically made in pill or powder form. Thus, users swallow a pill, smoke or snort the powder, or inject powder that has been dissolved in water or alcohol. As a result, methamphetamine increases the release of dopamine in the brain. And this chemical is associated with pleasure and reward.

Statistics from the National Institute on Drug Abuse show that 1.2 percent of 12th graders have used the drug. However, that number increases as teens get older. Hence, 3.3 percent of adolescents aged 18 to 25 report having used methamphetamine.

The Importance of Family Involvement in Treatment

Moreover, the journey of Nic and David Sheff illustrates that family involvement in teen treatment is essential to the healing process. Research on family therapy shows it is effective as a supplemental treatment for youth addressing substance abuse. Moreover, family involvement is crucial in the treatment of other mental health conditions as well. Hence, family involvement creates a greater likelihood of healing for both the adolescent and the family unit.

Family therapy provides an avenue through which family members can learn more about what a loved one is going through. Furthermore, they can learn about their own roles in supporting the teen and restoring the family system.

Newport Academy Substance abuse Resources: Nic and David Sheff

Read “How Attachment-Based Family Therapy Works.”

Lessons from Nic and David Sheff 

Finally, what families can learn from the story of Nic and David Sheff is that there is hope. No matter how difficult the journey, healing is possible. And the unconditional love of a parent makes an enormous difference.

In summary, here are a few more of David’s eloquent words from the book:

“Some people may opt out. Their child turns out to be whatever it is that they find impossible to face—for some, the wrong religion; for some, the wrong sexuality; for some, a drug addict. They close the door. Click. Like in mafia movies: ‘I have no son. He is dead to me.’ I have a son and he will never be dead to me.”  

Photos by Newport Academy, Sharon McCutcheon, and Fabrizio Verrecchia from Unsplash.

Sources:

Innov Clin Neurosci. 2011 Dec; 8(12): 24–28.

Crane, D & Morgan, Triston. (2007). The efficacy and effectiveness of family therapy.