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Keeping Teens Safe with the X Plan

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At one time or another, most teenagers find themselves in uncomfortable and possibly dangerous situations. It might be a party where everyone else is drinking and using drugs, or it could be a situation in which they’re being pressured to have sex or even break the law. And most of the time, when teens find themselves in these scenarios, they are with people they aren’t supposed to be with, or at places they shouldn’t be.

This can create quite a dilemma for a teenager. Should they call a parent and risk getting in trouble, or should they stay and go along with the situation they find themselves in? Fortunately, there’s a helpful solution to this problem that can help keep teens safe.

What Is the X Plan?

The X Plan is a simple solution created by Bert Fulks, a minister and father of three who works with teens struggling with addiction. Here’s the plan he came up with to ensure teen safety.

When a teenager ends up in a dangerous situation without their parents’ knowledge or consent—for example, at a party with friends who are drinking—they text their parent the letter X. Teens and parents then follow a prewritten script, something along the lines of the following:

Teenager: “Hello?”

Parent: “Something has come up, and I need to come and get you right now.”

Teenager: “What happened?”

Parent: “I’ll explain when I get there. See you in five minutes.”

Then the teenager can tell their friends that their parent called, something happened at home, and they need to be picked up. This way, teens don’t face their friends’ ridicule.

In addition, putting the X Plan into effect means that kids don’t have to share details of the situation with parents if they don’t want to. They are allowed to say as little or as much as they wish—even if it’s clear that they lied to their parents earlier in the day about what they were doing or where they were going to be.

Why the X Plan Is Important

Picking up your teenager at a late hour or from somewhere different than they said they’d be, no questions asked, is a challenging idea for many parents. However, the benefits of the X Plan outweigh the downsides. For one, it means that a teenager made the wise decision to leave an unsafe situation rather than giving in to negative peer pressure. Having that safe way out can prevent teens from making dangerous and even life-threatening choices.

The statistics show why the X Plan is necessary:

With all of that taken into consideration, it’s clearly essential to have a plan in place with teens, so they can leave any situation without being swayed by the fear of getting in trouble.

How to Use the X Plan to Build Positive Communication

To increase trust and positive communication, parents can start by not panicking when they receive an X text. No one wants to hear that their teenager has been in a dangerous situation. However, teens who have an overall positive experience with the X Plan will feel more comfortable using it in future should they need to.

If a teen shares with their parent what was happening and why they needed to use the X Plan, parents can thank them for being honest and for doing the right thing. Acceptance, understanding, and unconditional love are key to building a parent-child relationship in which a teen knows they will be supported no matter what.

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